Everything is as ready as it can be though. The baby has a bed and some clothes (actually a lot of clothes) and the car seat is installed. And we have diapers. So we can get the baby home where it can eat, sleep & poop.
I have been planning ahead and downloading various cartoons and kids shows because I don't like any of the crap that's on TV for kids now. It's all way too PC and geared toward really over-sheltering kids. I'm not the sheltering type. I have absolutely no interest in making sure my kid doesn't see nudity or hear swearing. And everybody goes, "Oh you'll feel differently when you have a kid." Oh, nope. I think that the more you make something taboo, the more your kid is going to want it. I'm not going to get my kid liquored up and sit it down in front of a porno, but I'm going to continue to treat things the way I normally do. There are some movies that have weird graphic sex scenes that make me uncomfortable and I will most likely not let our kid watch those, mainly because I don't really want to watch them either. But violence, nudity and not so graphic sex scenes are fine by me. I really think it's weird when people don't let their kids see just nudity. We are so afraid of the naked body in this country. We are the only country (of mainly white people) who are this afraid of nudity. I mean, we blur out cleavage on the TV and bleep the word "balls". Really? Balls? Maybe if we didn't constantly teach our kids to be ashamed of their bodies, their wouldn't be so many kids with eating disorders... Just an idea.
And swearing.... Give me fucking break. My mom NEVER swore. I mean, literally she swore once while I was growing up and my sister and I were amazed that she did. She was prudish about sex and violence in movies and she never swore and I love violent movies and I swear like a sailor. So that doesn't work. Maybe the fact that she made it a big deal focused my attention on it and made it an attractive way to rebel? I find it hilarious that my mom thinks I should not swear around my kid, which is what she did and she has a kid who tuned out to swear a lot... And she thinks I should do the same thing? Am I the only person who sees that as a pattern for failure? So, no offense, but I'm going to go ahead and disregard the advice from the parent who's kid turned out to swear constantly and try my own method. My method is called the "I don't give a shit, everybody makes everything out to be way to big of a deal" method. And maybe it won't work and my kid will turn out to swear a lot but really, not the end of the world. I swear a lot and I'm doing just fine. And, though I don't want my child to walk around swearing at people, if she swears as an adult, I don't care. I'm not trying to eliminate swearing from my child's vocabulary. If my kid learns swear words when she's little I think teaching the kid how to be polite and respectful will stop them from swearing at everybody. But my prediction is that it will work perfectly and my kid will never swear and it will frustrate my entire family. Oh, the simple pleasures in life...
LOVE love love your post!! What is it with our society that makes us so prudish? Kids can totally see naked people and I see no issue with that. I'ts human, it's natural, and it makes no sense to cover it up. What I find most ironic is that breastfeeding is encouraged. So it's okay to see, touch, and, and suck on the boobs during your first few years but then they need to be blurred out the next few years? Insane!
ReplyDeleteAnd swearing...I have the opposite situation. My mom swore all the time and I tend to never sewar. Not because I'm against it, but I guess i just don't feel the need most times. But what is wrong with saying "shit" or "fuck"? It's only a bad word if you make it a bad word. Now if it's meant in a derogatory way, that's another story. I will refrain from saying words like "nigger" and probably "cunt" too. But if I spill something and let out a "shit!", then so be it. It's not hurting anyone!!
Oh, and good luck with the baby!
ReplyDeleteSee, you're making my point. My mom never swore and it made it taboo in which case I started swearing. Where-as your mom swore and it was normal and you were just used to it.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the N and the C words, do you really have to refrain? Would you be using them anyway?
I think there's a big difference between using a swear word as a expletive and using one as a derogatory term against someone. I do the former but not the latter. Though I do call people retards... And I call Midgets "Midgets", not "little people", which they equate to using the N word which I find to be retarded. Do Midget rappers refer to each other as "my midget"?
And what makes us so prudish is that the christian-right has completely taken over our media. So nudity is related to sex and in most chistian based religions sex is bad. Sex is shameful. Sex, most of the time, is a sin. So anything related to the naked body or any words related to sex organs or the act of sex are deemed inappropriate.
ReplyDeleteI suppose I don't use the N and C words because they are derogatory in most situations. I never stub my toe and scream "cunt!". LOL
ReplyDeleteI only call people retards when they're acting stupid, but not when they're actually mentally ill or challenged.
I have this twin book from the 70s called something like The Psychology of Twins. There's actually a chapter on retarded twins! While the idea of a "slow" child is just awful, the fact that the book was so un-PC back then had me rollin'.